As the days wind down (95 days till marital bliss) things are starting to happen faster and faster. Decisions need to be made and plans have to be executed. The big question that was making both of us worry is whether or not I will have a job when I get married. We have been bless to find out that my current employer has made arrangements for me to continue to work for them remotely as long as once a month I travel back here and work in the office once a month. This is awesome. The big shadow has been lifted and I don't have to worry about being dead weight in our relationship. This also solves an issue with my mother who was afraid I would never come home after moving to Ohio.
While all this was a big weight that was lifted a new weight has been put into place. To be able to remotely work from Ohio I need to be pulled off of my current project and added to a new project. I also had to decide when I am moving. Knowing how it is going from one project to the next I wanted to get on the new project as soon as possible so when the stress of the wedding and honeymoon start coming down hard I will not have the stress of a new position as well.
This brought me to a moving date of Sept 27. This means I will be moving in with Diana two months before our wedding. We will be "living in sin" as I told by my sister-in-law. I have prayed about it. I have talked to my deacon about it. I have decided that this is the best for my sanity, for our relationship, and our situation.
First of all. If we lived in the same area I would have no problem waiting to move in together after the wedding but that is not the case. I will be moving across states. Normally, I would have to find a new job when moving that far away. I had even started to look, I had applied to a few places. My company had told me it was a long shot that I stay with the company but God was looking over us and that long shot came through. So even though I am with the same company I still have to move and get setup in my new place. It doesn't make sense for me to try to find an apartment, along with internet that I will need for work, for 2 months. Not only that it would not be financially possible. I could wait until after the wedding and honeymoon to transfer over but we have already talked about that or I can move in with my Fiancée. I think I have made the right choice.
We are not "Shacking Up" or "Testing the Waters" as some might say. This is a solution to a problem. I have given her my heart a long time ago and nothing will change my mind about getting married. We looked up getting married before the big ceremony and when we did our Pre-Cana discussions with the deacon we brought this worry up to him. He said that while the church does not condone this activity it does not hold it against us. While that is not a rubber stamp of approval it does lessen my worries about my decision.
So in 31 days my address will change as will my life forever. I am excited to start this new part of my life. I am eager to work on the new project as well. God has blessed my life more than I ever thought I deserved. I thank and praise Him every day. Soon I will start this new branch. The life of the single boy, still living with his mom, will be over and I will become the man who has a family to take care of. I am scared but I have Him to guide me and my Bijou to lean on. I am ready to take on the world! Everything is coming together better than I ever expected. Life is good. Thanks be to God!
T- 95 days and counting...
Tuesday, August 27, 2013
Tuesday, August 6, 2013
busy, busy, busy...
Yesterday I was talking to my betrothed, as usual, and she made a comment about how busy my life is. Not really thinking about it I gave a quick response that if you are doing something you like, you don't really notice the hectic pace. While this is true, it is not the complete truth. The following is a taste of my schedule.
TUE Work, Dinner with best man, talk to Bijou
WED Work, pick up furniture, get items ready for sale at bazaar, talk to Bijou
THURS Work, Take items to bazaar, price items with workers, talk to Bijou
FRI Work, get everything ready for Sat trip, talk to Bijou
SAT Drop of Kelsey at kennel, drive to indy, got to DCI
SUN Church, Drive home, pick up Kelsey, talk to Bijou
And that is just this week. If I look at it from a distance I could easily get overwhelmed so I take it one day at a time. Not one of those things could be taken off the list. They all are important to keeping my life moving forward. The Bazaar will allow me to shrink my footprint and make it easier for me to move. The furniture will make our life easier with more space to organize stuff. The DCI stuff in indy is a chance for me to enjoy my music while getting a chance to be with my love. It is also my last hurrah with my mom so this trip is important.
So you might think that maybe this is just a busy week. I would have to disagree with you though. My life tends to be a roller coaster ride with a small break every evening to recharge. I think it goes back to the days I was very alone. If I ever had some down time I started to realize how alone I was and got depressed. If I kept myself running from place to place like a busy little bee I didn't have time to worry about being alone. I worked and played myself to exhaustion and woke up and did it again the next day.
Now that I have something to slow down for I am having a hard time putting the brakes on. I try to slow down. It is hard to change a habit especially when life around me is still pushing me forward. I just got an email from a buddy that wants me to go to a concert tomorrow night and instead of just saying no I have started to try to figure out how I can fit it in. Old habits.... I hope my hectic life does not hurt my relations with my future wife. I hope that she can help me slow down and relax. All I can do is pray.
Dear God,
Help me slow down and appreciate what I have. Help me clear time so I can give myself completely to the person you have blessed me with.
Thank you, amen.
As a great man once said.
"Life moves pretty fast. If you don't stop and look around once in a while, you could miss it."
T-116 days and counting.... we are getting closer!!
TUE Work, Dinner with best man, talk to Bijou
WED Work, pick up furniture, get items ready for sale at bazaar, talk to Bijou
THURS Work, Take items to bazaar, price items with workers, talk to Bijou
FRI Work, get everything ready for Sat trip, talk to Bijou
SAT Drop of Kelsey at kennel, drive to indy, got to DCI
SUN Church, Drive home, pick up Kelsey, talk to Bijou
And that is just this week. If I look at it from a distance I could easily get overwhelmed so I take it one day at a time. Not one of those things could be taken off the list. They all are important to keeping my life moving forward. The Bazaar will allow me to shrink my footprint and make it easier for me to move. The furniture will make our life easier with more space to organize stuff. The DCI stuff in indy is a chance for me to enjoy my music while getting a chance to be with my love. It is also my last hurrah with my mom so this trip is important.
So you might think that maybe this is just a busy week. I would have to disagree with you though. My life tends to be a roller coaster ride with a small break every evening to recharge. I think it goes back to the days I was very alone. If I ever had some down time I started to realize how alone I was and got depressed. If I kept myself running from place to place like a busy little bee I didn't have time to worry about being alone. I worked and played myself to exhaustion and woke up and did it again the next day.
Now that I have something to slow down for I am having a hard time putting the brakes on. I try to slow down. It is hard to change a habit especially when life around me is still pushing me forward. I just got an email from a buddy that wants me to go to a concert tomorrow night and instead of just saying no I have started to try to figure out how I can fit it in. Old habits.... I hope my hectic life does not hurt my relations with my future wife. I hope that she can help me slow down and relax. All I can do is pray.
Dear God,
Help me slow down and appreciate what I have. Help me clear time so I can give myself completely to the person you have blessed me with.
Thank you, amen.
As a great man once said.
"Life moves pretty fast. If you don't stop and look around once in a while, you could miss it."
T-116 days and counting.... we are getting closer!!
Monday, August 5, 2013
The Double edged sword...
From the day people determined that Monday was the start of the work week people have hated Mondays. For me the Monday after I get back from seeing the love of my life is really bad. For one it is the farthest day away from seeing my love. Since we live so far apart I use the weekends to travel to see her. So on these Mondays I am crashing from the joy of actually being with her. To be able to hold her in my arms and comfort her when she is sad, to be able to make a dinner for us or ease her workload (for example cut the grass/kill the spiders) gives me the warm fuzzies. I have at least a full work week till I see her again in person. Not cool. The countdown continues though, I have started to look for a job there and soon, I will be out there. The latest this will start will be on Nov 30. Until then, I will continue my journeys out there and skype with her every chance I get.
When I am out there though, I have a great time. We hang out, watch movies, make dinners, sleep in late, do chores together, help out at the church, and spend as much time as we can with each other. It is all we can do. We only have a couple of days max together so it is only natural that we seem connected at the hip. I am not saying it is necessary to fill all our time up with activities. No, I am actually a pretty relaxed guy and don't mind juts sitting on the couch watching a movie or talking about her latest magazine. What I don't have time for is my hobbies. Before I met her I was a pretty big geek. I fiddled with my PC, played games (both video and tabletop), built and painted miniatures for the table top games, and just hung out with my friends. Almost all of these I have put on a back burner to be able to spend more time with my baby. I do not regret putting these aside because I know I can pick them right back up where I left them once life has settled down.
I have not given up these thing entirely I just have suspended them until I have the free time to pursue them. The problem is my closest friends think that I have been told to put away my toys. This can't be farther from the truth. The sad thing is that the more I argue the more they are convinced otherwise. They just don't understand. My fiancée has been nothing but supportive of my passions. Not once has she told me to cancel a meeting or to get rid of stuff. The current purge of my stuff is because it has been gathering dust so I thought I might as well sell or donate it so I don't have to move it across 2 states to gather more dust. I think it is a great idea. This weekend I sold off a bunch of Anime that I had to clear the layer of dust off before taking them to the store. I was very happy that I got cash for all that. Hopefully I can get some more for my old video games that I will try to get rid of next.
In the end I just need some thick skin and let the naysayers squawk. I know that once I settle down in my new life things will quiet down and I will be able to work on my hobbies. I am getting married!!!! There are more important things beside painting up some army, video games will wait till I have time to play them, and my PC can wait to be upgraded (might have to fix it soon though).
T- 117 and counting... I am so excited!!!!
Love you Bijou!
When I am out there though, I have a great time. We hang out, watch movies, make dinners, sleep in late, do chores together, help out at the church, and spend as much time as we can with each other. It is all we can do. We only have a couple of days max together so it is only natural that we seem connected at the hip. I am not saying it is necessary to fill all our time up with activities. No, I am actually a pretty relaxed guy and don't mind juts sitting on the couch watching a movie or talking about her latest magazine. What I don't have time for is my hobbies. Before I met her I was a pretty big geek. I fiddled with my PC, played games (both video and tabletop), built and painted miniatures for the table top games, and just hung out with my friends. Almost all of these I have put on a back burner to be able to spend more time with my baby. I do not regret putting these aside because I know I can pick them right back up where I left them once life has settled down.
I have not given up these thing entirely I just have suspended them until I have the free time to pursue them. The problem is my closest friends think that I have been told to put away my toys. This can't be farther from the truth. The sad thing is that the more I argue the more they are convinced otherwise. They just don't understand. My fiancée has been nothing but supportive of my passions. Not once has she told me to cancel a meeting or to get rid of stuff. The current purge of my stuff is because it has been gathering dust so I thought I might as well sell or donate it so I don't have to move it across 2 states to gather more dust. I think it is a great idea. This weekend I sold off a bunch of Anime that I had to clear the layer of dust off before taking them to the store. I was very happy that I got cash for all that. Hopefully I can get some more for my old video games that I will try to get rid of next.
In the end I just need some thick skin and let the naysayers squawk. I know that once I settle down in my new life things will quiet down and I will be able to work on my hobbies. I am getting married!!!! There are more important things beside painting up some army, video games will wait till I have time to play them, and my PC can wait to be upgraded (might have to fix it soon though).
T- 117 and counting... I am so excited!!!!
Love you Bijou!
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